New article in the Globe today re: a new study being released on women in law firms.
Something that frustrates me: the constant reference to childcare responsibilities. This article claims that the fact that women associates are leaving the firms at a rate of 35%, and men at 18% (higher for those with children) proves that women continue to shoulder the bulk of childcare responsibilities.
I disagree that "childcare" is the only consideration. I know of several husbands - especialy of younger women - who share the burdens equally. It's not just about finding someone to make sure the kids are supervised.
There is also this thing called a "relationship" with your child? You know - seeing them now and again, knowing who their friends are, enjoying their senses of humor.
My friends at Future Firm often looked at my life longingly.
"You're so lucky you already have kids, you have it made." Because I don't need maternity leave - ever. I don't need to worry about full time childcare or nannies or what to do after a part-time preschool program.
But I have existing relationships with my kids. Just because I have older kids who can walk to/from school on their own does not mean I have the license to disappear from their lives. Just because my husband works part-time and writes in our home does not mean that I am a negligible presence who can just work 20 hours a day.
So while looking for solutions, I don't think a nanny training camp is gonna cut it. On-site childcare works to a point - but school age children need their mommas, too, and their mommas need their kids.
I remain optimistic about Future Firm, and hold dearly to it's very high ranking on the "top 25 best firms for women" and on the lifestyle firm lists. That comes primarily from its flexibility in allowing attorneys to work at home and it's slogan that there is no "face time."
I also am optimistic that these conversations that are going on in the media and otherwise will influence the firms, and make it so that I don't get fired on account of my, "I'm going home for dinner, and will get this done from home this evening. See ya."Labels: family, firm life, lawyers, work-life balance |
